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Romantic Relationships shouldn’t be generalized. We often see relationships as black and white. But there is so much more to relationships than just what we experience in our own relationship. Our connection with one person is very different from one with another, which means that every relationship we encounter is unique.Something I have noticed that we tend to do is generalize relationships. If I, my parents, my friends etc experience the same thing then that means that everyone goes through it, right? … Not necessarily. There are a lot of people in the world and each and every relationship and connection is unique in one way or another. When we generalize in our language towards love and connection we can hurt those around us. Just because we haven’t experienced it, doesn’t make it true. We shouldn’t discount others feelings just for the sake of our own ego.I invite us to…

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Many times I have heard my clients inadvertently say they want to change another person or want to understand how to get that person to stop doing what they are doing. At the end of the day, we can’t change people, all we can do is work on ourselves. So firstly, rather than talking about that person my client is struggling to understand, I ask them “what do they do to trigger you? Why does this affect you so much?” Once we know our own triggers we can understand that sometimes it’s our perception of the persons’ actions, not the action or intention itself that caused us to react.But what if it was purposeful? What if that person is just bad!? How do I deal with that?When you see that person that presses your buttons walking across the room towards you or is at the cafe you are walking to,…

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